The Benefits of a Healthy Dynamic Between Men & Women
Because of my feminist writing, some people might assume that I hate men. I don’t.
I love and respect men.
I adore the dynamic between men and women when it is healthy- and that is why I get so offended when it is not. So much potential enjoyment is lost on both sides when the interplay is toxic. Life is much less beautiful.
This blog is an example of what can happen when that dynamic is healthy, because a man played a significant role in its creation.
A Masculine Spark for a Feminine Fire
In early 2025, I met a man and he gave me the confidence to believe in myself- something that I had struggled with for a decade. I hadn’t created anything during that time and I barely expressed myself. But he was taken aback by this.
He never expressly said “you should start a blog”; he simply cared what I had to say, and believed it had value.
He also helped me to remember that failing at something isn’t the end of the world; that life is about growth and authenticity, not perfection and compliance.
He liked me more when I expressed myself and was experimental, whereas I was used to people liking me when I was the opposite.
That made me feel so safe.
I didn’t have to put my mental energy toward survival and self-protection- I could put it toward creativity and self-expression.
There were no more egg shells, I could settle into my inner space peacefully without having to be hyper-aware of the world around me. I didn’t have to manage the judgment of those around me. This was a huge shift in my life.
I don’t want to give him too much credit, though. I am the writer, here. But I do want to acknowledge the genuine positive impact that men can have on individual lives and in the world at large.
My life is richer for knowing this man, and so are the lives of those who have been positively impacted by my words.
I am incredibly appreciative of that.
It is my hope that everyone has someone in their life like that- whatever gender they might be.
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